Overstimulated
Rachel Rauch • May 21, 2025
Why You Feel So Exhausted
I live very near two sets of train tracks. Without the train tracks, my backyard would be idyllic. Flowering trees. Squirrels that play and birds that sing. Quiet neighbors. A golf course beyond my yard.
But where there are tracks, there are usually trains. And in my case, LOTS of trains. With very loud whistles. Day and night. When I first moved to my home, the trains came through about every 20 minutes. Now it is about every 45 minutes.
Sometimes the trains are so heavy, my windows vibrate. Sometimes the whistles are so loud, I plug my ears until they are past. Depending on the moisture in the air and the direction of the wind, they can be deafening at times
My brain has become so acclimated to noise and stimulation during the day that I don’t notice them as much as I used to. But when all is still and quiet at night, the train vibration and whistle are jarring to my brain and can bring me out of a dead sleep quite quickly.
But here is one thing I’ve noticed. Day or night, if I am overwhelmed by other stimulation, the trains are louder and more annoying. They interrupt my thoughts or sleep and leave me feeling irritable.
Now, you might not deal with trains like I do. Maybe a distant train whistle lulls you right to sleep, but I’m sure you deal with the overwhelm from overstimulation.
If you’ve ever wondered why you feel so tired, irritable, or emotionally fragile—despite doing "all the right things"—you’re not alone. I see it regularly in the women I work with: women who love their families and want to serve the Lord with joy… but sometimes feel stuck in a fog of fatigue, anxiety, and overwhelm.
Let me share something that might give you clarity—and hope.
We Weren’t Designed for This Much Input
Today’s world bombards us with stimulation. Phones ping. Emails demand responses. Social media scrolls never end. Even when we’re “resting,” our nervous systems are still absorbing a steady stream of noise, light, and pressure to be "on." We’re living in a world that assaults the senses and overstimulates our brains without giving our bodies a break to reset.
Consider just a few ways our daily lives keep us activated:
- Constant dings, beeps, and buzzing from our devices
- 24/7 news cycles that deliver fear from around the globe
- Screens and artificial lights that override our God-given circadian rhythms
- A culture of multitasking that insists we hustle harder
- Endless access to information that we feel obligated to understand, even if we can’t control it
This is not the pace of life our bodies -- or our souls -- were created for.
What’s Really Happening in Your Body
When we are surrounded by unpredictable, uncontrollable, and novel input (as the book Widen the Window puts it), our nervous systems go on high alert. It’s not that we’re weak—it’s that we’re wired to mobilize when there’s a perceived threat. The problem? In today’s culture, the “threats” never end. Even though most aren’t life-threatening, they keep our bodies revved up in stress mode.
The result? Chronic dysregulation of the nervous system. That’s why so many women experience:
- Poor sleep
- Blood sugar imbalances
- Mood swings
- Chronic fatigue
- Brain fog and difficulty focusing
A Look Back: Life 100 Years Ago
Contrast that with life in the 1920s:
- People rose and slept with the sun.
- News came once a day, not minute-by-minute.
- Work included natural movement—walking, gardening, chores.
- Technology didn’t follow them home.
- Life had built-in pauses, like Sunday rest and family dinners.
There was stimulation, yes—but also recovery. Today, we’re missing that rhythm of
rest and reset.
So, What Can We Do?
God created our bodies to recover. But we must be intentional about stepping out of the chaos and into His design. Here are a few gentle, foundational steps:
1. Reduce Stimulants
- Limit or eliminate caffeine, sugar, and alcohol, which all disrupt our natural rhythms.
- Try calming alternatives: herbal teas, green tea (in moderation), or caffeine-free blends like Dandy Blend or Teeccino.
2. Balance Your Blood Sugar
- Include more protein throughout the day to steady your energy and mood.
- Avoid sugar, especially in the evening. A small protein-rich snack before bed can help you sleep more soundly.
3. Honor God’s Rhythms for Rest
- Stick to a consistent bedtime to reinforce your circadian pattern.
- Avoid screens, intense conversations, and high-stimuli environments in the evening.
- Practice deep breathing, progressive muscle relaxation, or prayerful stillness before bed.
4. Move Your Body—Gently
- Light, intuitive movement can work wonders for stress and energy. Just 20 minutes of light exercise 3 times a week reduced fatigue by 65% according to a study by the University of Georga.
- Don’t force a workout. Instead, ask: “What kind of movement feels nourishing today?”
5. Know What Overstimulates You
We’re all wired a little differently. Take time to notice what pushes you into sensory overload. For me, even though trains are on the list, my phone moves me toward sensory overload even more quickly.
Then gently introduce soothing practices:
- Soothing worship or instrumental music
- Essential oils (lavender, wild orange, cedarwood)
- Walks in nature
- Technology fasts (even 1 day a week makes a difference)
- Time in silence and solitude
- Somatic practices (body awareness, breathwork, gentle stretching)
- Follow the diurnal rhythm: rise with the sun, wind down at dusk
You Were Made for Peace
We often carry the weight of our families, ministries, and communities. But God never asked us to live from a place of chaos. He invites us to rhythms of grace—“Come to Me, all who are weary and burdened, and I will give you rest.” (Matthew 11:28)
If your body and mind feel overstimulated and hijacked by the world, know this: you are not broken. You are simply living in a world that doesn’t honor God’s design for your body. But you can return to rhythms that restore your nervous system—and your soul.
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Our lifestyle choices have a profound impact on our nervous system, which in turn influences our emotional state. The nervous system is the body's control center. It constantly takes information in from our environment and decides how we should respond. Because of the constant demands of our culture along with chronic stress or past trauma that we experience, our nervous system can get stuck in “fight or flight” mode, producing extra cortisol and adrenaline. A fight or flight response, also known as our sympathetic nervous system, is crucial in an emergency or survival situation, but a long-term response depletes our body of the reserves needed to maintain emotional balance. To compensate, we can choose activities that activate the “rest and digest” part of our nervous system instead to help us recover from the impact of fight or flight. The rest and digest, or parasympathetic nervous system, reduces cortisol and helps us to relax so our bodies can focus on healing. Spending time in nature, prioritizing sleep, and practicing deep breathing support the parasympathetic nervous system, reducing anxiety, and promoting a sense of calm. God designed our bodies to be most balanced when we have rhythms of rest built into our life. The twenty-third Psalm says, “He makes me lie down in green pastures, he leads me beside quiet waters, he refreshes my soul. He guides me along the right paths for his name’s sake.” There are times when we need to step away from the noise and expectations of our culture to rest so we can be refreshed. Sometimes rest is sleep, but sometimes it is play, or spending time with friends, or doing something creative. The Negative Effects of Overstimulation Overstimulation occurs when the brain becomes overwhelmed with too much sensory input ranging from bright lights, noise, rapid changes in the environment, or excessive emotional demands from other people. This overloads the nervous system, making it difficult to process and respond appropriately. Additionally, multi-tasking, excessive demands, and the daily pressure of managing life can add to the overload on the nervous system. Overstimulation can trigger a stress response, causing your body to release extra cortisol and adrenaline, sending you into fight, flight, or freeze. In fight or flight, you might find yourself more irritable or anxious. Your mind is racing, and you can’t settle down. In freeze, you may notice that you feel emotionally numb or apathetic and unmotivated. To distract from the uncomfortable symptoms of fight, flight, or freeze, we often reach for more stimulation in the form of social media or other entertainment. This creates a vicious cycle in the body. Women particularly, deal with the negative effect of overstimulation. There is the cultural pressure to “do it all”. To curate the perfect Instagram feed, to workout to have the perfect body, to make sure the kids don’t miss out on any opportunity, to perform to earn that promotion at work. The constant demands truly are overwhelming and overstimulating! Cultivating a Lifestyle That Promotes Emotional Balance There are several beginning steps you can take to reduce stimulation and create an environment that does not overwhelm the nervous system, so you can feel more emotionally balanced. Set household boundaries with technology. For example, no phones during mealtimes. No technology for 1-2 hours before bed. (Blue light from screens suppresses melatonin production, interfering with restful sleep.) Set a time limit on social media or gaming apps. Don’t check emails after you leave work. Dim the lights in the evening. Create intentional quiet time. Spend 30 minutes per day or 4 hours per weekend doing something that is restful and restorative. I talked more about this in my last blog post. This may be napping, but it could also be games as a family, taking a walk in nature, playing with a pet, reading a book or taking a bath. Prioritize self-care. You can’t take care of your family or meet reasonable expectations if you don’t first take care of yourself. Are you sleeping 7-8 hours per night? Do you eat 20-25 grams of protein with every meal? Are you getting moderate exercise 3-4 times per week if you default to fight or flight mode? Are you stretching daily and taking walks if you default to freeze mode? Are you limiting caffeine and drinking sufficient water? I find that one of my biggest challenges with overstimulation as a Christian is to be still long enough to hear God. You too? It has been helpful to me to have a designated time and place to meet with God each day. I want this area to be free of distractions. I silence my phone so I am not interrupted. One of the most powerful ways for me to reset my emotions after overstimulation is to rest in God. To stop my striving and allow His presence to calm and soothe me. Psalm 46:10 says, " Be still, and know that I am God. " This verse encourages us to quiet our hearts from overstimulation and allow God to bring us peace and restore our emotions. Trying to address the constant overstimulation in our lives can be overwhelming. We can’t avoid all stimulation, nor should we. Some stimulation is healthy. But when our mood and emotions are negatively impacted, we want to take steps to reduce the stimulation. Start with small steps. Don’t try to change everything at once. It is small consistent changes in lifestyle that bring peace and joy and improve our emotions.
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Have you ever felt your heart race during a stressful situation, experienced brain fog in the heat of a moment, or found yourself going along with something just to keep the peace? These reactions are tied to the body’s survival mechanisms: fight, flight, freeze, and fawn. They often originate from past traumatic experiences or ongoing stress. Though they may help us in acute situations, chronic activation can have long-term consequences on our physical and mental health. Let’s look at how each response impacts your body and mind—and what you can do to restore balance. Stress responses are hardwired into us as part of the autonomic nervous system, designed to help us survive threats. These responses were critical when our ancestors faced physical dangers in the wild. However, in modern life, our stressors are often more psychological than physical—like teaching school, social conflicts, or financial concerns. Unfortunately, our bodies can’t always tell the difference. Here’s a breakdown of the four main stress responses: Fight - This is an aggressive response to perceived danger, marked by anger, frustration, or the urge to confront the threat. Flight - This response pushes you to avoid or escape the threat, leading to behaviors such as running away or avoiding conflict altogether. Freeze - When neither fight nor flight seems viable, the body may become immobilized. This can show up as indecision, dissociation, or feeling stuck. Fawn - This response involves people-pleasing or appeasing the threat, often sacrificing personal needs to avoid conflict or gain approval. While these responses are essential for survival in short bursts, they take a toll when activated repeatedly or chronically. Let’s dive into the effects each has on your health. 1. The Fight Response and Its Health Implications When you’re in fight mode, the body gears up for a confrontation. Adrenaline and cortisol levels spike, causing your heart to race and muscles to tense up. You are ready for action! Physical health impacts of that are: Insomnia: It is hard to sleep when your body is primed to fight! Muscle tension and headaches: Digestive issues: Blood flow is diverted away from digestion, potentially leading to conditions like irritable bowel syndrome (IBS). And the Mental health impacts include: Chronic anger and irritability: If you're always in fight mode, it can lead to burnout, anxiety, or depression. Difficulty in relationships: Constant conflict or defensiveness can alienate loved ones, creating isolation or loneliness. 2. The Flight Response and Avoidance Patterns In flight mode, your body’s focus is on escaping, whether physically or emotionally. While it may seem safer to avoid situations, constantly running from stress can lead to unhealthy coping mechanisms. Physical health impacts of that are: Poor sleep again: Similar to the fight response, chronic activation of the flight response keeps your body ramped up, unable to relax to sleep. Fatigue: The constant state of alertness can lead to adrenal fatigue and poor sleep, where your body is depleted from the never-ending need to “run away.” And the Mental health impacts include: Anxiety disorders: Avoidance can lead to social isolation, reinforcing anxiety and making the stressor seem even larger. Procrastination and perfectionism: Constant avoidance can create a cycle of procrastination, making it harder to accomplish tasks and exacerbating stress levels. 3. Freeze: The Health Impact of Feeling “Stuck” In freeze mode, the body shuts down to avoid a threat. This can happen when you feel powerless or overwhelmed by a situation. While freezing may feel protective, it can be paralyzing. Physical health impacts of that are: Immobility-related issues: Being stuck, whether emotionally or physically, can contribute to muscle stiffness and low energy levels and even constipation. Suppressed immune function: Prolonged stress can weaken the immune system, making you more susceptible to illness. And the Mental health impacts include: Dissociation: Chronic freezing can lead to emotional numbness, disconnection from reality, and difficulty engaging with the world. Depression: The sense of helplessness often associated with freezing is a common feature in depression, making it harder to break free from the cycle. 4. The Fawn Response and People-Pleasing Fawning, or the tendency to appease others to avoid conflict, may seem like a harmless way to maintain peace. However, neglecting your own needs can have a profound impact on both your physical and mental health. Physical health impacts of that are: Chronic stress: By constantly bending to others' needs, your body remains in a prolonged state of stress, leading to fatigue and tension. Digestive issues: Similar to other stress responses, fawning can trigger digestive problems as the body’s energy is diverted from rest-and-digest functions. And the Mental health impacts include: Loss of self-identity: Fawning can erode your sense of self, as you may prioritize others’ desires over your own just to maintain peace. Low self-esteem and resentment: Over time, the act of people-pleasing can foster resentment, frustration, and feelings of unworthiness. Healing from Chronic Stress Responses Recognizing which stress response you default to is the first step toward breaking the cycle. Here are some practices that can help: Begin to notice how your body feels throughout the day in different scenarios. Do you feel engaged? Tense? Disconnected? This awareness can help you identify your stress triggers and habitual responses. Movement, especially aerobic exercises like running, walking, or swimming, can help discharge the fight or flight energy, bringing your nervous system back to balance. For those who freeze or dissociate, practices like focusing on your breath or engaging with your physical senses can help bring you back to the present moment. Try the 5-4-3-2-1 exercise: notice 5 things you can see, 4 things you can touch (different textures), 3 things you can hear, 2 things you can smell and1 thing you can taste. If you tend to fawn, learning to set clear boundaries is critical. Setting boundaries are not to force the other person to change but to help protect you. Therefore, you don’t set a boundary on them, but on you. It can be helpful to bring in the support of a professional therapist to help you process past trauma or chronic stress that is interfering with your current life. Fight, flight, freeze, and fawn are natural responses to stress, but chronic activation can have a detrimental effect on your well-being. Understanding your patterns and taking proactive steps to manage stress will not only improve your mental and physical health but also help you feel more balanced, present, and empowered in your life. By tuning into your body’s cues and cultivating healthier coping mechanisms, you can transform these instinctual responses into conscious, empowered choices.
