The Stress You Don't See Is Still Affecting You
I first met Maddie* when she scheduled an introductory call with me.
She was smiley and warm—one of those women who makes you feel at ease right away. As we talked, she shared pieces of her life, and slowly a much fuller picture came into view.
She had just moved out of a home with mold and into a new “smart” home.
Her youngest son had been dealing with medical issues that required a lot of time and emotional energy.
She was homeschooling four children.
She was leading two different committees at church.
And somewhere in the middle of all of that, she felt guilty—convinced she wasn’t doing enough—and resentful toward others she thought should be doing more.
On the surface, Maddie looked like she was managing well in spite of everything she was doing.
But underneath, her system was carrying a hidden stress load of toxins that was contributing to her overwhelm.
This is something I see often.
When we think about stress, we usually think about what’s obvious: busy schedules, emotional strain, and difficult seasons. But the body doesn’t just respond to what we consciously label as stressful.
It responds to everything it has to process.
That includes what’s in our environment.
Our nervous system is constantly taking in information—from our relationships, our responsibilities, our thoughts, and also from the world around us. Mold exposure. Processed foods. Household cleaning and body care products. EMFs. Even when these things feel normal or unavoidable, they still ask something of the body.
Not because they’re always “bad” or because you’ve done something wrong—but because the body has to work to adapt.
When that environmental load is added on top of chronic stress, past trauma, and a lack of recovery, it can quietly tip the system into overload.
This is why so many women tell me,
“I don’t understand why I feel this way.”
“I’m trying to take care of myself.”
“I’ve made changes, but nothing really sticks.”
Often, it’s not that nothing is working. It’s that the body is already maxed out.
In Wholeness Restored, we begin with a simple but powerful pillar: Recognize.
Recognize what your body has been navigating—both seen and unseen.
Recognize that symptoms aren’t random.
Recognize that healing is harder when the environment is constantly asking more of a system that’s already depleted.
This isn’t about fear. It’s not about eliminating every possible exposure or striving for perfection.
It’s about awareness.
Here’s one question you can ask yourself this week:
Instead of saying, “What else should I add to fix this?”
Ask, “What might be adding stress to my system that I haven’t considered?”
I also have a Resource Guide that includes some of the ways I personally have chosen to reduce environmental stressors—without turning my life upside down.
You can download it here.
And if you’d like help understanding how your unique stress load—life demands, environment, and internal patterns—may be impacting how you feel, I’d love to invite you to a **free 45-minute **introductory call.
It’s a space to understand what’s happening in your body and explore next steps together.
If you’re considering deeper support, I want you to know that during January, enrollment in Wholeness Restored includes a free Adrenal Cortisol Test (a $210 value). It’s a simple tool we use to better understand how stress may be showing up in your body so your healing journey can be more informed and specific.
*Maddie isn’t one specific client—she represents a combination of stories and experiences I see again and again in the women who reach out to me.











